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Want to transform your marriage from Mediocre to Magnificent?

 

This is a 2 min clip from the “Real Marriage” sermon series you can find the full series if you follow the links in the marriage section. This video series is great for anyone who is or would one day  hope to be married.

Does it take a village to raise a child?

There is an old African proverb which states: “It takes a village to raise a child”. It certainly is quite an appealing image of a child’s hungry mind being fed by the smorgasbord of different experts and perspectives on offer in the larger community in which they live. Surely no child cooped up in the one mud hut, with the one set of parents, could develop to maturity and adult understanding.
Our society seems to have whole-heartedly embraced this parenting technique. We encourage our kids to go out and explore the world they live in. We sign them up to the best schools money can buy, that offer the greatest range of subjects. We sign our kids up to violin, karate, tap, macramé, gymnastics and Kumon lessons. We want to keep their ‘options open’. We buy them the latest technology so they can be up-to-date and plugged in to our global village. And we sleep easy at night knowing that the internet is growing their brains at the rate of 50 kilobytes a second.  We don’t want them to miss out on the full village experience. We would hate to stunt their development and narrow their opportunities for success.
But what does it really take to raise a child?
The Bible’s emphasis on parenting is not the village but the family. It lays the responsibility of parenting at… the parent’s feet. Paul speaks to Christian parents of the need to bring our children up ‘in the training and instruction of the Lord’. (Ephesians 6:4)
To live in our global village what our kids desperately need are deep-rooted principles instilled by parents who lovingly and sacrificially teach them the word of God, showing them how it informs life’s journey. How else can they not get deceived, seduced or just plain swamped by the host of options the village offers them?
The final word must go to a proverb from the Bible: “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

Cameron Griffiths

 

Christian Spouse Swap

Christian Spouse Swap

 

There is nothing Christian about swapping spouses, right? Right! Jesus made it clear that marriage is for life between one man and one woman living together as one flesh. There isn’t room for another person in this equation. Nor is there an option for trading up.

But there is the absolute necessity for the same old husband and the same old wife to become two different people together (2 Corinthians 5:17) for the glory of God. And swapping the old person each spouse used to be for the new one in this sense is very Christian.

SWAPPING ADAM FOR JESUS

Adam’s sin cursed marriage for everyone everywhere. God pronounces the curse on marriage to Eve in Genesis 3:16, “Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” The consequence of Adam’s sin is that his nature would be to “rule over” Eve, his wife. He would be domineering and harsh. And he would be negligently indifferent to her needs. He would be a passive coward. And so it continues with the sons of Adams today. But Jesus’ obedience redeems marriage for all who trust in him.

Jesus blesses marriage by changing the sons of Adam as husbands. Ephesians 5:22–33 paints the new picture. Husbands, in the role of Jesus, are to love their wives, who are in the role of the Jesus’ bride, the church. And instead of selfish domination we now see a husband loving, serving and cherishing his wife. We see that Adam has been swapped for Jesus.

SWAPPING EVE FOR THE BRIDE OF JESUS

Eve wasn’t without a flawed nature either as she was evicted from the garden. God told Eve, “your desire will be for your husband.” This may sound innocent and sweet, but it is a very dark and bitter pronouncement.

This same term, “desire” is also found in Genesis 4:7. There, it describes sin’s intention for an angry young man named Cain. “Desire” most accurately means “control.” The consequence of Eve’s sin for the future of marriage would be the innate tendency for a wife to control her husband. She would be fearful, distrusting, demanding, and manipulative. And so it continues with the daughters of Eve today.

But, again, Jesus’ righteousness changes everything. He redeems marriage by transforming the daughters of Eve. Selfish manipulation is gone. It is replaced by respect for and submission to her husband. A wife lives under the loving and sacrificial leadership of her husband just as the church does for her Savior. We see that Eve has been swapped for the bride of Jesus, the church.

THE TRUTH ABOUT NEW SPOUSES

There is very good news about new identities. They don’t result from doing more and trying harder. New identities are realized by faith alone in the person and work of Jesus Christ. A new identity is a gift from God. It is to be received not achieved. 2 Corinthians 5:17–18 states, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold; the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ, reconciled us to himself.”

The foundation of a Jesus-centered marriage isn’t first about doing. It is first about being. And you don’t have to find a new partner to have a good marriage. You need to be a new person in Christ by faith. And you need to love and accept the same spouse in his or her new identity. You can both enjoy a new marriage with the same spouse by embracing your new identities together in Jesus. Goodbye, Adam. Goodbye, Eve. Hello to Jesus and his bride.

Pastor Dave Bruskas 

The Secret to Fulfilling Sex

The Secret to Fulfilling Sex

 

The Secret To Fulfilling Sex

Talking about sex in church can be awkward. Here you are, surrounded by hundreds of people, thinking about how to be a servant lover of your spouse. So before we step up to a new level of discomfort, let’s start the conversation with Jesus.

The Servant God

Jesus came to earth as the Servant God. He said of himself, “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45). Jesus instructed his disciples that to be truly great is to be a trusted servant (Matthew 23:11–12). He even described serving someone’s critical needs as an act of worship (Matthew 25:40). Jesus himself is the Servant. Those who follow him are identified by serving each other like Jesus.

Servant Lovers

But we have a huge problem: We aren’t servants by nature. Rather, we are selfish.

This sin manifests in all parts of our life, including the bedroom. Selfishness destroys every aspect of intimacy in marriage, especially sexual intimacy.

Transforming from selfish lover to servant lover takes more than willpower. We need Jesus.Philippians 2:5–7 reads:

Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.

The change from selfish to servant requires a new identity, both in mind and in form. According to Philippians, this mind is exactly what Jesus gives us: it is “yours in Christ Jesus”! We don’t experience change through doing more and trying harder. We change by turning from selfishness to trusting in Jesus and the new identity he gives us.

Invite the Holy Spirit

True change cannot come apart from our Servant, Jesus. He works in our lives by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Here are some ways that you can invite the Holy Spirit to apply God’s grace, bring transformation, and help you serve your spouse:

  • Ask your spouse to share with you examples of your selfishness in your sex life. Be earnest in seeking forgiveness and reconciliation.
  • Ask your spouse to share with you his or her needs you could better serve in the bedroom. Encourage specific conversation. Be sincere in your desire to meet those needs.
  • With love and respect, honestly communicate your own struggles related to experiencing freedom and/or setting boundaries in sexual intimacy.

Remember This

As you have these conversations with your spouse, remember that sexual intimacy doesn’t really begin in the bedroom, nor is it achieved through sexual acts only. Intimacy, or oneness, is something to be nurtured everywhere at all times. Serving your spouse in the everyday, routine tasks of life glorifies God as an act of worship, and is a vital component for a fulfilling sex life.



This “The Secret to Fulfilling Sex” article was written by Pastor Dave Bruskas on Mar 11, 2012

WE ARE ALL ABOUT JESUS

Being a man of courage is essentially a life following the most “Courageous” man I know… JESUS!

It’s that simple. The first step in becoming a “Man of Courage” is to ensure that you know JESUS (not just know of JESUS)

 So to help you along the way, we will let God’s word speak to you. Below you will find Biblical links that will show you aspects of Jesus character. Follow each link as you start to explore who Jesus is.

JESUS AS A GOOD FRIEND: John 3:16John 15:3John 15:151 John 3:161 John 4:7-21Romans 3:21-26John 2:1-12John 14:4-61 Corinthians 11:1John 10:7-18John 16:13Romans 8:34Hebrews 7:25Hebrews 4:16Luke 22:31-32

JESUS AS A TRUTHFUL FRIEND: Mark 14:61-64John 8:58-59John 10:30-33Colossians 2:8-15Hebrews 4:15,Philippians 2:1-11John 10:17Luke 24:44-49Matthew 9:6Luke 23:341 John 1:9John 14:6Romans 1:16,Ephesians 1:13-141 Thessalonians 5:9Hebrews 5:9-10,Revelation 7:10Revelation 21Romans 8:18-25Acts 4:11-12

JESUS AS A POWERFUL FRIEND: Revelation 19:11-16,Matthew 26:64Isaiah 6:1-51 Corinthians 15:3-11Acts 1:1-11Revelation 21:1-2Ephesians 6:10Colossians 1:17-201 Corinthians 15:50-56Romans 8:15Matthew 16:18,Acts 1:23-25

 

 

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